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https://apis.google.com/js/plusone.js love and Logic is a parenting technique that has been tried and tested for many years. started by well known parenting experts Jim Fay and Foster W. Cline MD over 30 years ago, love and Logic has helped thousands of parents raise responsible and loving children. Jim Fay has written several books and given classes and seminars all over the country.
The four basic principles of love and logic, build self concept, share the control or decision making, offer empathy, then consequences, and share the thinking and problem solving help build children’s self-esteem and teach them personal responsibility and how to make intelligent choices.Build the Self-ConceptIf your child wants to do something that you think might not be a good idea, ask questions that encourage your child to think about his actions. Five-year-old Sarah is excited about starting her first day of Kindergarten. During the summer she attended a dance camp and loved her ballet shoes so much that she wore them nearly every single day. When the first day of school arrives she wants to wear her ballet shoes to school as well. “Sarah,” her mother says, “You still have your ballet shoes on and the van leaves for school in five minutes.”“I like my ballet shoes, Mom,” Sarah replies. “I know you like them Honey,” her mom says lovingly. “How do you think they will work in the classroom?”“Great!” she says.“How do you think they will work in gym class?”“Oh, not very well. I’ll slip all over the floor. I need to wear my tennis shoes. mom can I pack my ballet shoes in my backpack?”“Yes you can, Sweetie. The van leaves in five minutes.”Share the ControlFighting with your child over control creates tension and can lead to rebellious behavior later in life. Share the control by giving your child choices that you feel good about. Two-year-old Johnny wants to go to the park with his mother. It is a nice sunny day and the park is just around the corner from their home. Mom asks her little boy, “Do you want to walk to the park and hold Mommy’s hand, or ride in the stroller?” “Walk and hold Mommy’s hand!” Johnny exclaims.On the way to the park Johnny gets distracted by some rocks on the side of the road. He lets go of his mom’s hand and starts playing with the rocks. Worried about his safety mom says, “Do you want to hold Mommy’s hand and walk to the park or do you want mommy to carry you to the park?” Johnny doesn’t answer and continues to play with the rocks on the side of the road. mom quickly scoops him up and says, “I am carrying you to the park.”Provide a strong Dose of Empathy before delivering ConsequencesWe learn from our mistakes. usually if humans do something that causes hurt or pain we will avoid that in the future. When you allow your children make poor choices and accept the consequence of their actions you teach them a valuable lesson as long as you do it in a loving way.Mom made vegetable lasagna for dinner for her family. Her three older kids are enjoying the meal which she hasn’t served in several months. The youngest boy, Davie picks at the lasagna and refuses to take a bite. Mom says to her young son, “Dinner is going to be over in 10 minutes, Davie and you haven’t touched your lasagna.”Davie says, “I’m not hungry, Mom. and besides dinner looks weird.”After dinner mom clears Davies plate along with all the rest.Later that night after all her kids are in bed, Davie comes down stairs and says, “Mom I can’t sleep because I am hungry.”Mom says, “Sorry, Sweetie but dinner ended two hours ago. What do you think you should have done?”“I think next time I am going to eat my dinner,” Davie replies.“That is a good idea,” says Mom. “You are a smart kid!”Share the ThinkingWhen your child does something that makes you angry instead of yelling show your child empathy and understanding. This will help your child think about his actions. little Tommy loves to play in his sister’s bedroom when she is in school. He knows he isn’t supposed to go in there but he does it anyway. curious he wanted to know what would happen if he threw her musical jewelry box across the room. Mom hears a crash and enters her daughter’s bedroom.“That is so sad, Tommy. You broke your sister’s special jewelry box. What are you going to do?”OneTommy replies, “Don’t know.”Mom asks, “Would you likE för att höra några idéer? “” En idé är att du kan öppna din spargris och hitta tillräckligt med pengar för att köpa henne en ny smyckeslåda. Hur kommer det att fungera? ”” Jag kan göra det, mamma! Hur mycket kommer det att kosta? ”” Jag är inte säker. Jag visar dig hur du ringer till butiken och får reda på det. ”Tommy lär sig allt om hur man använder telefonen. Med tårar i ögonen säger Tommy: “Damen säger att en ny smyckeslåda kostar tio dollar och jag har bara fyra.” Kramar sitt barn mamma säger: “Det är så ledsen, Tommy. Vill du ha en annan idé? ”Han nickar, ja.” Du kan tjäna de sex dollar genom att hjälpa mig med ett gäng sysslor runt huset, som att damma och svepa köksgolvet. Hur kommer det att fungera? ”Tommy säger:” Jag hatar sysslor! ”Mamma svarar,” Vad sägs om att betala mig med din Spider Man -actionfigur? Hur skulle det fungera? ”Tommy utropar,” Jag ska göra sysslor! ”När vi hjälper våra barn att bygga självkoncept, dela kontrollen, erbjuda empati och konsekvenser och sedan dela det tänkande vi lär dem värdefulla lektioner som hjälper till att bygga deras karaktär som vuxna. Kärlek och logik föräldraskap lär barnen hur man gör kloka val, accepterar konsekvenserna av deras handlingar och ansvar.
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Cascia Talbert är en upptagen bloggare, förläggare, frilansförfattare, onlinehandlare och mor till fem barn, som bor i Stillahavsområdet. Med en B.A. I historia och lag och en passion för att skriva och hålla sig frisk, startade hon Healthy Moms Magazine 2007. The Healthy Moms Magazine är för närvarande rankad som den bästa hälsobloggen för mammor och har flera hälso -expertförfattare och MOM -bloggare. Fröken Talbert tror att om mödrar är välutbildade i hälsoproblem och hur de kan hålla sig friska, kan de överföra den informationen till sina barn och vända barnens fetma statistik i USA
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Fröken Talbert är en presenterad hälsobloggare på wellsphere.com och hennes artiklar kan också hittas på ezinearticles.com. Hon driver också det Healthy Moms Social Network på Ning, är Chief Marketing Officer för Talbert Nutrition LLC och är i Social Media Advisory Board for America’s Wellness Challenge. Följ henne på Google+.
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